As both our bodies and our relationships mature, our desire for sex may weaken. If you’re experiencing a dip in your sex drive, know that you’re not alone. According to one study, approximately 40 percent of women in the United States have sexual concerns, including lack of sexual desire, impaired arousal, inability to achieve orgasm, pain with sexual activity, or a combination of these issues.
WebMD reports several factors that may cause a loss of sexual desire including stress, depression, relationship problems, alcohol consumption, poor sleeping habits, poor body image, medication, menopause and other life changes.
But just because sexual dysfunction is common doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about it. Here are seven things you can do to rev up your sex drive.
1. See a therapist.
Your lack of sexual desire may be caused by stress, depression, or problems with your partner. A therapist or counselor could help with any of these issues. A therapist could help you learn how to handle stress in a healthy way. Couples counseling could help you better communicate with your partner.
2. Tell your doctor.
Your low sex drive may be caused by an undiagnosed medical problem or could be a side effect of medication you’re taking for a health issue you already know about. Anti-depressants, blood pressure medication, chemotherapy, and even some birth control can cause low libido. If you suspect one of these might be the culprit, do NOT stop taking your medication on your own. Instead, talk to your doctor about your concerns.
3. Hire a babysitter.
If you and your partner recently had kids or recently took on of caring for your grandchildren, this huge life change may be why you can’t get in the mood. Hire a babysitter and have a date night. Try to do this regularly so you and your partner can stay connected and have quality time away from the kids.
4. Take care of your body.
Obesity and poor body image can dampen your desire for sex. This doesn’t mean you have to be skinny to have a good time in the bedroom! But it does me you should do more to take better care of your body. Exercising regularly and choosing healthful foods can help you reach a healthy weight but can also help you feel better about yourself even before the number on the scale has changed.
5. Get more sleep.
Maybe you’re just too tired for sex! If you’re not getting enough sleep, fatigue could the cause of your low sex drive because it’s pretty tough to feel sexy when you’re exhausted. If you think you’re not getting enough sleep due to sleep apnea, insomnia, or some other condition, talk to your doctor.
6. Drink less alcohol.
While a nice glass of wine may help put you in the mood, too much alcohol can leave you feeling numb. And if you are worried that you or your partner has drinking problem, please seek professional help.
7. Consider hormone replacement therapy.
Many women experiencing menopause or a hormonal imbalance can also experience a decrease in sex drive and orgasm. As women age testosterone is the first hormone to decline and low levels of testosterone can lead to low libido. Furthermore, low estrogen levels can cause vaginal dryness and pain with intercourse, which can also decrease your desire for sex. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) could be what you need to get your sex life back on track. Call or schedule a consultation with Dr. Mia today to learn about what hormone treatments are available at MiBella Wellness Center and which ones are right for you.